Don't blame the gays for being that way

Gotta weigh in on this same-sex marriages thing. I heard a guy say yesterday it's unhealthy to raise children in a same-sex home. Heterosexual is the only way to go. Translation: Children raised in a same-sex home will have a distorted, incorrect, perhaps even perverted view of the world. Heterosexual is right, homosexual is wrong. Couldn't disagree more. Heterosexuality is. Homosexuality is. They aren't right or wrong. They just are.

I'm tired of seeing innocent people being hurt and blamed for the way they're born into this world. Many times we've heard homosexuals say, "Ever since I can remember, I've known I was gay." "I didn't make a choice." "I didn't have a choice." "My programming was hard-wired from day one." "Didn't match up with the physical me, and it made life difficult, very difficult at times." "I could deny the reality of it to others, but never to myself."

What are these people supposed to do? Pretend to be someone they're not to make heterosexuals comfortable? I don't understand what happens biologically ...mentally ... whatever ... to result in a person being attracted to either the same or the opposite sex. I admit, when I see a gay couple kissing, my heterosexual programming chirps, "That can't be right. Malfunction." When you accept how logical nature is, how complementary the world appears to be, homosexuality seems out of sync.

I override that feeling by accepting how little I really know about the world and its machinations, and choose not to judge and hurt people based on one's assumption of "should" versus "is." When choice as to sexual orientation is removed from the equation, blame and negative stereotyping should also take a hike. They should anyway. Consenting adult - Why should I care what consenting adult you have sex with? PS: I don't.

But back to the "healthy" heterosexual environment. Just as there are heterosexual parents with very unhealthy sexual attitudes they could pass along to their children, there are also morally squeaky-clean gay parents who go out of their way to give their kids the big picture on human sexuality. And vice versa. There are a million variations of good and bad parenting, both straight and gay. I am good friends with a gay couple raising their adopted child, who I know will see to it their daughter will receive an excellent unbiased education with regard to human sexuality, and all other aspects of life. They're very moral, responsible, bright people. They have no gay agenda with their kid. And because of the discrimination they suffered as children, there's no way they'll try and force their own child to be someone she's not. As for the fear their daughter might emulate their homosexuality? Most homosexuals are raised in heterosexual homes. Case closed.

One's personal truth ultimately wins the day. Homophobia is a waste of time. Humanity is a fascinating mix of multi-sexuality, none of it capable of, or in danger of, destroying or being destroyed by any of the other components. We "worry" sexual orientation too much. Are you a good person? Welcome. Live and let live. Enough about sex. Fix the damn highways.